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J.K. Rowling, Author of Harry Potter - It is impossible to live without failing at something ... in which case, you fail by default.

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Hi all,

The following extract is from an article in the November 17th edition of the Globe and Mail. It is the convocation address J.K. Rowling gave in June to the graduates of Harvard University. If you don`t know the story of J.K. Rowling here it is in a nutshell - divorced, single mom on welfare; starts writing a book in coffee shops; becomes a billionaire. I have been listening to "Think and Grow Rich" on audio cd again in my car recently. It struck me again that her success, like all success, began with an idea, was realized through effort and a willingness not to give up and finally accepting the resulting rewards. It also reminds me of what Steve Mcknight said at the last workshop, "The enemy of a great life is a good life." I would say that not having a fall back position tends to focus the mind and steel the resolve. The "it could always be worse" syndrome can keep people from "making it better".

The arts are no different. British mystery author John Creasey was rejected 743 times before selling his first novel – and went on to publish at least 500 more. Pearl S. Buck had a dozen rejection slips before The Good Earth found a publisher.

British author J.K. Rowling is the world`s most successful living writer – a billionaire who has sold hundreds of millions of her Harry Potter books – and yet her convocation address this past June to the graduates of Harvard University was entitled: The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination.

Harvard grads, she said, might not be very well acquainted with failure, but before they come up against it – as we all do – they might like to look at it in a different light. She wasn`t claiming failure was any fun, but she did think it sometimes necessary and often helpful.

There was a time, Rowling told the puzzled students, when "by every standard, I was the biggest failure I knew." Seven years after her own graduation, her marriage had failed, she was a single mother and unemployed.

She began scribbling away in coffee shops on a book about wizards.


"Failure," she said, "meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged."


Setbacks, Rowling argued, make one stronger, not weaker. Knowing you can survive a setback and move on makes one "secure in your ability to survive" and teaches you more about yourself than any examination can.


"It is impossible," she said, "to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default."

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/sto...beSportsHockey/

Keith
 
QUOTE (DragonflyProperties @ Nov 20 2008, 12:34 PM) Hi all,
The following extract is from an article in the November 17th edition of the Globe and Mail. It is the convocation address J.K. Rowling gave in June to the graduates of Harvard University. If you don`t know the story of J.K. Rowling here it is in a nutshell - divorced, single mom on welfare; starts writing a book in coffee shops; becomes a billionaire. I have been listening to "Think and Grow Rich" on audio cd again in my car recently. It struck me again that her success, like all success, began with an idea, was realized through effort and a willingness not to give up and finally accepting the resulting rewards. It also reminds me of what Steve Mcknight said at the last workshop, "The enemy of a great life is a good life." I would say that not having a fall back position tends to focus the mind and steel the resolve. The "it could always be worse" syndrome can keep people from "making it better".

The arts are no different. British mystery author John Creasey was rejected 743 times before selling his first novel – and went on to publish at least 500 more. Pearl S. Buck had a dozen rejection slips before The Good Earth found a publisher.

British author J.K. Rowling is the world`s most successful living writer – a billionaire who has sold hundreds of millions of her Harry Potter books – and yet her convocation address this past June to the graduates of Harvard University was entitled: The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination.

Harvard grads, she said, might not be very well acquainted with failure, but before they come up against it – as we all do – they might like to look at it in a different light. She wasn`t claiming failure was any fun, but she did think it sometimes necessary and often helpful.

There was a time, Rowling told the puzzled students, when "by every standard, I was the biggest failure I knew." Seven years after her own graduation, her marriage had failed, she was a single mother and unemployed.

She began scribbling away in coffee shops on a book about wizards.


"Failure," she said, "meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged."


Setbacks, Rowling argued, make one stronger, not weaker. Knowing you can survive a setback and move on makes one "secure in your ability to survive" and teaches you more about yourself than any examination can.


"It is impossible," she said, "to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default."

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/sto...beSportsHockey/

Keith

Hi Keith,

I like real life stories like Rowling`s and especially Lance Armstrong`s.

I bet you like Jerry`s too....?


Attitude Is Everything


By Francie Baltazar-Schwartz

Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"

He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don`t get it! You can`t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?" Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.` I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life." "Yeah, right, it`s not that easy," I protested. "Yes it is," Jerry said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good or bad mood. The bottom line: It`s your choice how you live life." I reflected on what Jerry said.

Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it. Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.

I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I`d be twins. Wanna see my scars?" I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.

"The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live." "Weren`t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked. Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, `He`s a dead man.` I knew I needed to take action."

"What did you do?" I asked. "Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. `Yes,` I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply.... I took a deep breath and yelled, `Bullets!` Over their laughter, I told them, `I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."

Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him thatevery day we have the choice to live fully.

Attitude, after all, is everything.


Be well,

Todd-
 
QUOTE (GSI @ Nov 20 2008, 01:52 PM) Hi Keith,

I like real life stories like Rowling`s and especially Lance Armstrong`s.

I bet you like Jerry`s too....?


Hi Todd,

Jerry`s story is great. I suspect that I have the same allergy as he does! If you like real life stories I have a book for you - "Unstoppable: 45 Powerful Stories of Perseverance and Triumph From People Just Like You" by Cynthia Kersey. Her website is - http://www.unstoppable.net/products_books.htm.

Have a great day!

Keith
 
Fantastic find, Keith! I was already a huge fan of Rowling`s, but after reading that snippet I must say I got a little misty.

I think people spend so much time focussing on negatives that they miss out on some tremendous opportunities. Since no-one is immune to failure, it is ridiculous to waste our time trying to avoid it, especially when "avoiding failure" could cost us our success. Like Wayne Gretzky once said, "I missed every shot I never took."

Sherilynn
 
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